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  1. Lol, we posted simultaneously.
  2. No, but I will say not one Republican senator voted for the ACA. Why do you expect a different response from Democrats?
  4. One thing I remember distinctly as a social worker was hearing a lecturer talk about the invisible wagon most public assistance recipient mothers carried into every situation. Illiteracy, history of abuse, lack of formal job experience, lack of GED or higher education, drug or alcohol addiction (either self or parent), etc. etc. There is nothing wrong with not knowing. We're all ignorant about something. There is definitely something wrong with refusing to look at something because it makes you feel uncomfortable or guilty or sad or bad. One way to deal with those unpleasant feelings is to do some small thing about it. If everyone did, the world would be an amazing place. (I am trying to remember that as I live through Trump. Better not to complain, much better to do something, even if it's just a drop in the (soon-to-be polluted) ocean.)
  5. Does it matter? Should it, when in 20 years, Whites will not be the majority in the US? You have kids. Think about it.
  6. I couldn't agree more. And it annoys me when people try to pretend there is no difference. (The other thing that annoys me is when pro-choice peeps (and I am a strong one) pretend abortion is an easily defined negligible and only women-hating Visigoths are anti-abortion. It's illogical and not factual.) What does annoy me most is when people put more value in the traditionally male qualities and values and underrate the traditionally female qualities and values. And that goes triple for women who are fortunate enough to choose to stay home with their children and do great (unpaid) work by doing so. But for many women, that isn't a choice.
  7. Oh no no no no. I really have to get offline but I have to address this one. Because this was the very argument my 16 year old brother made to 14 year old me when he was arguing the superiority of the male sex. One, you have to remember the odds--if you have 5,000,000 men doing something that only 100,000 women are doing, it's going to be hard for women to be the best. Two, all of these "greatest" appellations are debatable. Subjective. Three, Jane Austen could be the answer for two of your questions. Writer and novelist. She is certainly my favorite of them all, and is highly respected by experts in the field. And she is far more accessible than any of the three you named...and she died very young, yet people are still writing sequels and revisioning of her material and making movies of her books today. As long as there is Jane Austen, I never have to feel that men are superior in that category. You go, Jane! Four, Meryl Streep is definitely in the same category as Brando and DeNiro. P.S. The Beatles wouldn't exist as we know them without Chuck Berry. So yeah, kinda racist. As well as sexist.
  8. I meant in theory because what should be so very rarely is. Not that I don't think it would work, and should be implemented. We stand on the same ground there. I've been living in despair since November. It gets worse every day. It's like being in a car with a drunk driver who has done some damage, but he's going to be driving for a long time and you know you're going to die a few times before the ride is over. And all the cops and normal societal protections are having doughnuts.
  9. Another one of Oliver's points, I think, is that this is desperate and unsubstantiated and unlikely hope indeed. Early in Trump's WH days, I remember he was very upset about Ivanka's company being boycotted, and he said something to the effect of, "They don't know what a good person she is, how she argues with me." I thought then it was completely damning that he acknowledges how desperately in need he is of an external better angel. And even then, I knew that her influence was exceedingly limited in terms of the big picture. I didn't have any confidence in her being all that good an angel, either.
  10. I think that was Oliver's point. We don't know what they are, except "probably better than the actual appointees that Trump has brought into his Administration." That isn't a recommendation for peace of mind, or, as Oliver said, an easy rest. Update: You are right--they aren't necessarily empty or full vessels. And John Oliver made that point, as well. It's wrong to say that they are empty vessels, but I'd say I don't know any actual empty vessels. That's why it's such a cruel comment in general.
  11. I'm not sure the majority of people who allocate funding care about the results, or are capable/desirous of long-term thinking. It will be up to people to drive this change. Or the market. It's not going to come from politicians.
  12. I understand the argument that I think Eileen is making, and, to a small extent, I agree with it. You only have so many funds allotted for education. You have to decide whether you are going to spend how much on individual concerns vs. the majority who don't share the issues. It's a constant struggle for all teachers--making sure each person gets the best possible education vs. making sure all students get the best possible education. But I think what you're saying is that more funds SHOULD be provided and if our priorities were better, they WOULD be provided--and I agree with that too. The Seth Godin piece Pastor Jeff provided talks about how a school in Harlem manages to provide individual education on a small budget. And so much more. (Can you tell I think everyone would benefit from reading this?)
  13. The Haley situation I discussed above. Note the patronizing, "No, we won't do that" remark Trump makes at the end. Daddy won't spank today, but he always has the power to spank if he's displeased. Just be a good girl and everything will be fine.
  14. I fixed it because I don't like misrepresenting or missing a point. To me, it's immaterial to every incident in the McSweeney's piece what a woman thinks or doesn't think. Do you have any statistics to back up your "just a fraction" or is that representative solely of the people with whom you've come in contact? Because a lot of women in my country voted for a man who bragged about groping attractive womens pussies. And a whole lot more men voted for him, as well. I can cite the statistics if you'd like for me to do so. I came across this article in my travels today, too. Last night, I went to see Juliana Hatfield, whose latest album is called Pussycat. It's largely about the Trump Presidency and the detritus that comes with it. The language is more graphic than I feel comfortable with, using or listening, but I can't argue with the message. It's all part of the quilt that is this issue. Small things, large things.
  15. While the McSweeney's piece is fiction, I think these responses show why it's so resonant. Eileen makes the point that women should just laugh (or not) at these silly/wrong male responses. (And I know I could use a dose of the British propensity to take the piss at anything and almost everything, not to take things, especially myself, so seriously.) But the reality is that these kinds of thoughts and actions have nothing to do with womens' reactions/responses, and everything to do with SOME mens' thoughts and behaviors. The reason that I emphasize SOME is that 50 years or so ago, no one would blink an eye at any of these examples, they were so entrenched in our culture. While feminism is now in some disrepute, the reality is that it not only involved a shift in our awareness, most men on this board agree in theory, if not in action, with most of the things feminism fought for: that women be perceived, treated, and paid as equals AND for wives/mothers to be respected for the essential work that they do. It wasn't feminists who came up with the term "just a housewife." (However, a false division emerged as some women and men claimed that feminists looked down on housewives, which was never the case. Feminists merely emphasized that women should have the same choices as men in terms of career opportunities.) But I, as usual, digress. P13 is just one example of a man who, I'm sure, grew up in a time when the feminist movement began to make incremental changes in our culture. And could only do so with the assistance of men committed to doing the right thing (along with those who were less committed, but recognized the fiscal necessity of doing the right thing.) But P13 immediately "got it" that it is not any woman's responsibility in any way to mitigate these behaviors and thoughts. sonicramone made a truthful comment about how it is natural for men to look at hot women. I think it's important not to shame people for telling the truth or being who they are. The difference is that, in the McSweeney's piece, the man judging women for their fuckability takes it a step further. It is natural for women/men to look at people who are attractive. It is not natural to assume that their beauty advertises their fuckability, because that's one tiny step away from making those looks into a snare that forces you to behave in ways that will make the sexual act occur. "She was asking for it. If only she had dressed in sackcloth, I wouldn't have put my hand on her butt/breast/etc." Sadly, we have an old rich man President who has never absorbed the message that women don't exist solely for his sexual pleasure. I understand that yesterday he even treated Nicki Haley in that "sexually predatory-I'm your boss, honey" way that so many men will not even notice, but every woman does. It sends a message that the McSweeneys piece simply duplicates. As Serena Williams said in response to Ilie Nastase's racist remark, "I have said it once and I'll say it again, this world has come so far but yet we have so much further to go. Yes, we have broken down so many barriers - however there are a plethora more to go." The Haley and Williams incidents are timely examples, but every day gives us timely examples of why, while we have truly "broken down so many barriers," putting the progress in progressive, we still have a "plethora more to go." I try to comfort myself with the fact that most people on here have progressed a great deal. Sadly, resting on those laurels makes us regress. I see the Trump Presidency as a symptom of that regression--we inch forward, we inch back. Ultimately, we do go forward, but sometimes it does seem like, to quote Bruce, "One step forward, two steps back."